Whose rights matter most? 

Rome was not a perfect civilization but in some ways I think they were on to something. Their reign was strong and it lasted for a long time. Two of their beliefs contributed to build their strength. Familia and Civitas, or family and citizenship, were two of the main driving components of the Roman culture. Their honor and respect were shown by how they honored those two things.

So, there is application here. Our nation has lost site of the greater good. I am saddened every time I hear someone fighting for same sex marriage. Why? Because of familia and civitas. Despite the untrue argument that same sex marriages are able to create homes and families equal to those of heterosexual couples, the children in those families are always missing one important thing: the set of both biological parents. The biology between mothers and fathers and their children connect families together to build strong social units. Those families in turn create places of refuge for individuals. Those places of refuge are homes. Those home contribute to civilization, in other words our government. Our government regulates and defines marriage because it depends on those families raising families. And it needs those families to be strong and have strong ties to each other. Unfortunately, in same sex marriages, children suffer knowing that their family is not biologically complete.

I will never forget the first moment I laid eyes on my son. He was tiny and perfect in every way. My husband chuckled and said, “Wow, he looks just like your brother!” My family's genes are strong. We didn’t realize how strong until we had baby #2. Our little baby girl was born just a year and a half later. They were both 7 lbs. and 12 oz. and both were born with long blonde hair. In many ways, we felt as though we had twins just a year and a half apart. And she looks just like me. But in temperament, they are both just like their father! But there is more than just love that connects our family. There is biology.

Biologically, children innately hope that those beings that created them are here for them now and always will be.

As a daughter of a homosexual mother noted, “When two adults who cannot procreate want to raise children together, where do those babies come from? Each child is conceived by a mother and a father to whom that child has a natural right. When a child is placed in a same-sex-headed household, she will miss out on at least one critical parental relationship and a vital dual-gender influence. The nature of the adults’ union guarantees this. Whether by adoption, divorce, or third-party reproduction, the adults in this scenario satisfy their heart’s desires, while the child bears the most significant cost: missing out on one or more of her biological parents.” Katy Faust.

Same sex marriage should not be an option for anyone. And here is why:

Primarily, as the dissenting judges in the 2015 Supreme Court Case that legalized same sex marriage in the United States stated, the sexual relationship between men and women is the only relationship that can actually bring children into the world, and thus are the only way to replenish the population. Society is built on families, and only heterosexual relationships can built those families. Marriage is an institution that legally binds parents to each other and to their children providing the best circumstances with which to raise those children.

Secondly, children thrive when they have both gendered parents raising them because the gender differences between men and women complement each other.

Every verse of the National Anthem ends describing the flag of our nation waving “O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave.” Being an American means I am home in this land. However, with the rising individualism that says the right of the adult is more important than the right of the children, that home is becoming more a house filled with strangers than a home filled with family.